Can you believe we live in a society where people are kissing Elsa’s ass and viewing her as a great big sister despite neglecting Anna through their whole ass childhood just cause she has the ability to make fucking freezer ice cubes while Nani, a dedicated brown woman who despite lost her parents by a lethal storm had to push her grief aside because Lilo was now her main priority, took care of her, fed her, probably paid money for her hula classes, busted her ass at her job to financially support Lilo, busted her ass to emotionally support Lilo, supported Lilo’s photography talent even though Lilo’s theme was a little weird, got her a dog and even during moments where Nani hit was hitting rock bottom (ex: getting fired but didn’t put her frustration out on Lilo) she did whatever it took to keep her little sister from being taken away, and wanted nothing but happiness and safety for her.
Okay I see your point, and Nani is definitely an amazing big sister (the best one in Disney Canon; I love her so much) and Frozen definitely shouldn’t be held up as the only Disney movie to show sisterhood when Lilo and Stitch is right there with this fantastic sisterly relationship and serving out some quality representation in the process, cmon guys. That being said, it’s not like Elsa just decided to fuck off and abandon Anna. She was manipulated into isolating herself from a very young age, after a tragic accident that basically gave her depression and anxiety, if not outright PSTD. The adults in her life decided everything for her, and treated her powers as something to be feared (which didn’t help when she was already suffering from guilt over accidentally hurting her sister). The atmosphere of fear led to Elsa believing that she was dangerous to be around. Couple that with the mantra of “Conceal, don’t feel,” implying that Elsa should be working to suppress her emotions and not release them, and you have the recipe for a mental health disaster. Because Elsa loved her sister Anna so much and didn’t want to hurt her, she stayed away from her even though it pained her to do so. As Elsa got older and her powers grew stronger, her parents focused on her more and more, neglecting Anna. This is not Elsa’s fault. If anything, it’s her parents’ fault for choosing to isolate her in the first place (there were so many other options available, and they took perhaps one of the worst and most damaging ones), and Pabbie’s for being so cryptic about what Elsa needed (Curse the Fair Folk for not being clear with their prophecies). They could have supported Elsa in her time of need; instead, they took an incredibly vulnerable little girl and taught her to fear and hate herself. No wonder she continues to isolate herself after her parents’ death— she’s terrified of hurting her sister again. ….. TL;DR : Elsa didn’t “neglect” Anna; she was dealing with the aftermath of being manipulated and neglected herself, leaving her with mental illness and a fear of harming her sister. Anna’s neglect is mostly the fault of the adults in her life; they could have made sure she wasn’t isolated as well, and completely failed to do so. Frozen is about two sisters healing from the people in their lives who didn’t know enough to help them when they could have.